This is the first list of 45 virtues I did for my class assignment.
Philippe is my brother. We’ve never had a close relationship and I take full responsibility. Unfortunately at an extremely young age (5), I had needs that he couldn’t fill – be a girl. I wanted a sister and instead got a brother. I don’t like that I felt that way but I also craddle that 5 year old for what she lacked that she couldn’t find any love for a baby…
But I grew up and had many chances to chose to feel differently and act differently and even though I made attempts…it’s never been enough to heal the relationship completely. While in a relationship there are two people making choices, he has made his and I have made mine and when doing this list I realized how deeply my negativity has affected the relationships I care about. It makes me sad. Very sad. I am fortunate to have a loving family and a heart that is open to change…so I know that love can heal all things.
When there is a moment when I allow negativity to be a part of my thoughts when it comes to Philippe, this is the letter I will read to remind myself of how truly awesome he is and how grateful I am that he is my brother.
Dear Philippe,
You’re a really special person and I wanted to let you know just a few of the things I have witnessed in you, admire about you and believe about you.
When you are in the room I know that I will be fine because you are PROTECTIVE and FEARLESS. I also know that I will get to smile because you are HAPPY and FUNNY. Your ADVENTUROUS, ENERGETIC, RISK TAKER personality is a constant reminder of living without regret.
While you are STRONG, MOTIVATED, pushing your ENDURANCE with DISCIPLINED effort, it’s also nice to see the side of you that is SENSITIVE, CARING, THOUGHTFUL, GIVING and ENCOURAGING and UNDERSTANDING and RESPECTFUL.
I admire how you PROVIDE are DEDICATED, LOYAL and feel RESPONSIBLE for your family. When I watch you with your daughter and see your PATIENCE and LOVE I know that she is going to grow up with many of her father’s great qualities.
I’m never surprised to see you surrounded by many friends because of your ACCEPTING, COMPASSIONATE, FRIENDLY, FUN, SUPPORTIVE, POSITIVE, HELPFUL virtues.
You’re one of the first people I think of when I need someone I can DEPEND on.
It’s been an inspiration to see how CREATIVE, DRIVEN, SMART, SKILLFUL, RESOURCEFUL, CONFIDENT and CLEVER you are when it seems life is hard for you.
I love that you can get EXCITED and CURIOUS about something new. How you do many things aiming for PERFECTION and not settling for less.
I hope that others know how FORGIVING you are – I am thankful you have been with me.
And last but not least, I love that my brother has STYLE.
I love you deeply.